There's a fine line between playing a little hard to get and acting totally indifferent.
Instead have your own interests to show him how exciting your life is, with or without him.In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities."Giving back to others shows your good heart and integrity, and although they may not consciously think that far in the future, men are subconsciously assessing maternal traits in a woman to see what kind of mother she'd be," Kelman says. It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand.He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it."The best type of date allows you to stop texting, put the phone down, and really foster a deep connection," Kelman says.Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. And never tell yourself, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him." "That's convincing yourself of something that's probably not right," Trespicio says.This helps him to realize that your time is valuable and that he'll have to go out of his way to see you. "Don't move dates around too much—that can get frustrating for a guy who also has a busy schedule like you," Trespicio says.It's easy to let parts of yourself go when you meet someone you think is the man of your dreams. "Trying to be someone you're not is so transparent to a guy," Kelman says.