They will fabricate or distort the truth in order to maintain allegiance from their children. Parenting after divorce becomes a popularity contest for the Narc.
They have to ‘win’ the children at all costs Their ego is vulnerable and causes them to lash out at the person who has rejected their idealistic view of themselves.
Narcissism is a term that originated with Narcissus in Greek Mythology who fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water.
Currently, it is used to describe a person characterized by egotism, vanity, pride, or selfishness. They are often affectionately referred to as ‘Narc’, for short.
If the son of a narcissist chooses a certain academic program in college and the Narc views their choice as substandard i.e.
medicine, pre-law, science or architecture, they will make their disapproval known to all.
Mothers can also be narcissistic but I am focusing on the fathers in this post.When the child is on the verge of adulthood and learning to spread their wings, there will likely be conflict between Narc parent and child. Nothing they do or say will be good enough for their Narc father.If the child (now a young adult) is not available to serve the Narc parent immediately upon request, they are subject to abuse.Every decision they make is questioned by the Narc father.Every dream, idea or hint of independent thought is dismissed by the Narc father if it does not abide by his ideals.They do not see the children as individuals with their own ideas.For obvious reasons, this becomes highly destructive to the children as they approach young adulthood.Their children’s appearance, behavior, choices, friends, and activities are all a reflection of themselves.This condition often includes the parent expecting their children to be ‘perfect’ just as they view themselves.Surely, if the son had chosen pre-law for his studies, the Narc would be bragging about it. “My friend’s daughter had the ‘pleasure’ of running into one of her father’s long-time friends. When she explained that she hadn’t dropped out and was attending night classes, he responded that the classes weren’t ‘real’.Interestingly, her father had said the same to her not more than a week prior.