For us straight dudes, however, being big and hairy means getting thought of as an ape—big, dumb, smelly oafs.
While I can be dumb, smelly, and oafish at times (like anyone), I'd also like to have a way to describe myself that is masculine yet attractive.
And You Tube has a channel for everyone in the kink spectrum from gay to straight to trans to nonbinary and beyond!
" "is a great option for gay men," said Metal from the gay male bondage website Metalbond
(Also: There are tons of gay guys out there into spanking, SPANK.
So if you aren't finding any, I can only conclude that you aren't looking.) I'm wondering about the application of the term "bear" to a straight man, such as myself.
Don't forget the motto 'safe, sane, and consensual,' and be sure to have a safe word!And if you do want to explore bondage, take precautions.Never get tied up in your own home by someone you don't know.I'm a bigger guy with a lot of body hair and a beard.I love that in the gay community there is a cute term for guys like me reflecting body positivity.It's not that they're closeted—most of them go on to have girlfriends, and that's when we stop—and they make it clear they don't want anything sexual to happen. And how do you know they aren't closing their eyes and imagining that you're a woman when you're spanking them?And how do you know they're not bi—at least where spankings are concerned?We should also remember that no one is clairvoyant and that someone can hurt us without intending to.But there's no intimate human connection, sexual or otherwise, that doesn't leave us open to hurting or being hurt.You're aware that nonmonogamous relationships are an option—and couples can explore nonmonogamy together.If you can have this guy and have your sexual adventures, too—this could be the start of something big.