But I really need you take this job for me.” Wife: “Well, okay, just tell me what to do and when it needs to be done by, and I will do everything I can to make it happen.” Husband: “Well, right now there are no specific responsibilities. Things are always tight around here on a pastor’s salary.
Basically, it’s just doing anything at church that no one else steps up to do or wants to do.” Wife: “Oh my, that is a tall order. Husband: “Well, actually honey, there is no salary .
The apostle Paul added to the teachings of Jesus what is called the "Pauline privilege." According to this concept, Paul taught that if an unbelieving spouse leaves a believer, the believer is not bound to the marriage relationship, but is free to remarry" (1 Corinthians ).
And some people recognize such a thing as a "constructive desertion," which would be when a husband so brutalizes his wife that it is impossible to live with him any longer; or when a wife has so harassed, or brutalized her husband that it becomes impossible for him to stay with her.
However, I do think physical brutality and abuse, and mental abuse of a nature that endangers the person's mind or body, are clearly grounds for divorce.
The Pauline privilege, which I mentioned earlier, (1 Corinthians ) permits divorce on the grounds of desertion by an unbelieving spouse.
Finally, in these complex personal matters I recommend prayer, study of the Bible, and that you counsel with a wise and godly pastor in you own community. I do not think mental cruelty is grounds for divorce if mental cruelty concerns the way a mate twists the toothpaste tube or hangs stockings in the bathroom.
That type of mental cruelty has been defined in so many different contexts it has no meaning.
Later on, in the New Testament, when Jesus was asked about divorce, He replied that Moses gave permission to divorce because of the hardness of their hearts. Jesus continued: "Haven't you read that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate" (Matthew 19:4-6).But it is impossible for me to say that this conduct is all right.A minister of God must teach what is in the Bible; yet the teaching must be tempered with the biblical understanding of God's love. Does one, for example, tell a three-times-divorced man to go back to his previous mate? Is it right to ask the remarried couple to make a second divorce and break up a second home?However, given the appalling state of marriage in the modern world, I feel that the church should use its power of "binding and loosing" (see Matthew ) to provide guidance in the way of forgiveness to divorced and remarried couples who have received Jesus Christ after their divorce.In other words, the church should (and I personally would) say that what happened in your past life is covered by the blood of Christ.” Thank you to the pastors’ wives who were willing to give us such great feedback. One pastor’s wife told us that her role was like getting a job for which she never applied.And thanks to Chris Adams for doing the survey and to Amy Jordan for assembling the data. She wrote this funny script in her response: Husband: “Honey, I got you a job today.” Wife: “Really? I have plenty to do here running the household and raising the kids. Me stay home with the kids so you could fully dedicate yourself to the ministry.” Husband: “Yeah, yeah. In extreme cases, there are only two grounds for divorce and remarriage.When adultery has taken place, a divorce can be obtained, because adultery has already severed the marriage relationship and divorce is a formal acknowledgment of what has already taken place.For mental cruelty to be grounds for divorce, it must involve conduct which makes it impossible to live with the spouse without endangering oneself.The sort of cruelty I have in mind would not spring from a criticism of a souffle or a brother-in-law.