Can he identify what he is looking for in a relationship and why previous relationships ended, or does he reply with something vague and general such as “I just like to see where things will go” or “it just didn’t work out." Don’t feel like you are prying or being too inquisitive.To make a relationship work, you need a sense of the areas for growth. Coming to a common understanding of what makes you both tick or what went terribly in a previous relationship can help strengthen the current one.Is he so egotistically-driven that he won’t take a second look back? It’s about acknowledging your partner’s feelings and validating them. That was not my intention.” It can end right there. In the dance of dating, the process of getting to know someone occurs over time.Will he say ending the relationship is “your choice? While fake remorse and sorrow isn’t the name of the game, neither is a staunch refusal to accept you might have stepped on one’s toes. However, in this day and age of technological connectivity it can be easy to get to know a person at turbo speed.
It’s natural that the speed of relationships progress as a function of many factors, one of them being age. On average however, dating in the later 20s to early 30s tends to make it somewhat more socially acceptable to ask these more serious questions earlier on. If you think he’s not emotionally invested, there is a good chance he’s not.Many times in the heat of an argument one partner might throw out the “let’s end it now” card. At their most basic level, they involve setting your ego aside.While it’s ultimately a power move, see your partner’s reaction. Apologies aren’t actually about who is right and who is wrong.They blamed themselves—for choosing him, not ending it sooner, for texting him back when they should have remained silent, the list goes on.Wanting to find a life partner, spouse, or someone whose shoulder to lean your head upon are a nearly universal desire.Of course the point is not to gossip about exes or fixate on past relationships.But having a sense of the road one came from can make the one ahead far less bumpy.While this article is written within a heterosexist frame, many of these same concerns can apply to same sex relationships as well. While it’s wonderful that women can approach and ask out a man without waiting for him to do it, there is also a delicate balance in the relationship. The investment factor seamlessly leads to an even more important type of initiative.You ask him any iteration of relationship check-up questions and he’s either unsure, needs more time, or tables the topic entirely.Whether it is a friend, a sibling, or other acquaintance, it can be helpful to include a larger community in your relationship for the purposes of safety and balance.In some collectivistic cultures, families can be at the forefront of relationships—so much so that they interfere with the natural progression.