If it feels like obsession, they drop it like it’s hot.
MORE: How to Have a Healthy Relationship This simply is not true.Most of the love stories we see in pop culture are rooted in infatuation…not real love.Some degree of infatuation is fine, but a relationship entirely rooted in infatuation is usually doomed.I don’t care if you have a million songs on your i Pod.If you’re not listening to the music, you’re not experiencing music.Granted, even good relationships have a little bit of fixation mixed in with them (I must emphasize a little bit), but it is only during very occasional occurrences like arguments or when one or both partners are stressed.In general, though, compatible people have very little, if any, fixation in their relationships…If a relationship with someone makes you feel bad, that is your mind screaming, “This person is incompatible with you! ” If a relationship feels like suffocation, that’s a huge clue that you’re not in a relationship with someone who’s compatible with you. In a good relationship, everything just unfolds effortlessly (well, 99% of the time within a good relationship is effortless with the occasional 1% of the time where you have to put in the effort to make sure things stay in a good place).You don’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells, worrying that you might screw something up. You don’t feel like you’re suffocating, wishing and hoping to finally get some sweet relief and get to breathe. In fact, you never even think about possibly losing them because you don’t feel you need to possess them in order to experience the love you have for them. Yes, popular songs make it sound like it’s supposed to be. But movies and music are wrong, love is meant to be effortless and easy. Why is breaking your fixation essential to having success in your love life?It’s usually based on an obsession, or idealization, more than a genuine appreciation and acceptance of who the other person is. Click here to take our quick (and shockingly accurate) “Are You Sabotaging Your Love Life” Quiz right now and find out if you’re sabotaging your love life, and if you need to get out of your own way…There is a tremendous difference between real, true love and unhealthy obsession or fixation… Well, when you love someone, it is pretty effortless.