Stand down, squad You’re way more approachable if you’re either by yourself or with one other person.
“I hear it from male clients all the time, that’s probably one of the top reasons they hire a wingwoman is because it’s so hard to approach women when they’re in groups,” she says.
But generally, it’s amazing how much you can know about a person from just a few photos, a one-sentence bio, and whether or not they opted to flex topless for a bathroom selfie. My first stop was the bar at the Gramercy Park Hotel, because it’s near my apartment, and because rich people go there.
She also likes breweries and Mexican restaurants, which by the nature of their fun drinks and upbeat music tend to attract happy people.
For Tinder dates I dress up, I meet the guy for a drink at like p.m., and then we have a real, uninterrupted conversation. Whereas if you meet someone out at a bar or a party, you’re with a group of people, it’s loud, and you’re probably drunk.
And sure, apps have downsides—it’s annoying when you can’t tell someone’s height, or if their voice sounds like a squeaky toy.
It gets you in the meeting-people mindset more so than going to an event and hoping that something happens.
The bar crowd is also conveniently self-selecting: Singles go out with their co-workers or friends at the end of the day, while people in relationships tend to go home.