Learn beneficial ways to improve communication in your relationship. Learn to grow and establish trust with your significant other.Honesty and trust are the foundation for every strong military relationship.Marriage by itself can be challenging, but toss the military into the equation and the challenges multiply. The possibility of death is a required — and repeated — conversation. The military was not the cause of my divorce — another question frequently asked — and I will always look back on the experiences my military life allowed me with fondness and appreciation.Separations are frequent — there’s often an empty seat at the dinner table. I guess that’s why, when my 13-year marriage to a service member ended in divorce, I was asked repeatedly, “Would you do it again? I walked away from it with a wealth of knowledge, unforgettable experiences, lifelong friendships and a deep respect for service members.But I’ve been there, done that, bought the T-shirt and wore it proudly until it wasn’t mine to wear anymore. But trying to date without crossing paths with the military wasn’t easy.After the divorce, I chose to remain with our two children in the same city the military last sent us as a family.Of course, there are a few military girlfriends who give the title a bad name. They take advantage of service members and make poor choices.Having a life in addition to the one with your service member will help you remember who you are as a person.
Give the relationship at least a year before making plans for your future. Take your time to know whether this is the life that is right for both of you.
Military life tends to take over a bit from time to time, but remember your individuality. Doing this will help your survive long deployments and separations so much better.
Connect with others in your community through Facebook groups, blogs and community events.
That means I live in a city densely populated with service members.
As a single mom nearing 40, my dating pool was already small, but my Zip code was limiting my options even more.