Whether it's been twenty years or only six months, every military spouse has those moments when you realize that the military has kind-of-sort-of taken over your life.
She is seeking support, friendship and acceptance into the military community.Marriage by itself can be challenging, but toss the military into the equation and the challenges multiply. The possibility of death is a required — and repeated — conversation. The military was not the cause of my divorce — another question frequently asked — and I will always look back on the experiences my military life allowed me with fondness and appreciation.Separations are frequent — there’s often an empty seat at the dinner table. I guess that’s why, when my 13-year marriage to a service member ended in divorce, I was asked repeatedly, “Would you do it again? I walked away from it with a wealth of knowledge, unforgettable experiences, lifelong friendships and a deep respect for service members.Of course, there are a few military girlfriends who give the title a bad name. They take advantage of service members and make poor choices.Having a life in addition to the one with your service member will help you remember who you are as a person.talk to other spouses your your boyfriend’s trade honestly about what it’s looked like for them.Make an informed decision now, because that’s what dating is about.Military life tends to take over a bit from time to time, but remember your individuality. Doing this will help your survive long deployments and separations so much better.Connect with others in your community through Facebook groups, blogs and community events.This could be military community members or civilians.Establishing friendships and good relationships with others will offer you the support you need to overcome the ups and downs of military life.