‘I completely support safe sex but for some reason I guess I’ve never thought it was necessarily for lesbians,’ Dorna told us.‘We’re all too busy trying to actually figure out our complex identities to stop and think if we’re doing it safely.We’re told about contraception to protect ourselves from pregnancy and STIs.But if we’re taught that sex is simply a way to make babies, the idea of lesbian sex doesn’t even come into it.‘Unfortunately the demographic is usually male, lesbians don’t seem to have such open and available representation.‘Dental dams makes me think of a trip to the dentists as opposed to a hot female date.’ But even by the time women actually learn about dental dams (a form of barrier protection when having oral sex) – usually through chatting to other women who have sex with women, or doing some research on the internet – it’s not as simple as just running out and buying them. They’re not stocked in club toilets (which upholds the assumption that oral on women isn’t a ‘casual sex thing’, but that’s a whole other issue).
The latex can feel strange against your tongue, reducing the intimacy of getting your tongue and mouth all up in another person’s bits.So women who have sex with women skip them entirely.The lack of education about the risks and the lack of promotion of using dental dams makes women think they’re ‘safe’ because there’s no man involved.The Australian Defence Force plans to get 'allies' of gay and lesbian soldiers to identify themselves in official documents.Through using a rainbow flag to signal who is in alliance with members of the LGBTI community, the military plans to include the signals in staff directories, according to The Daily Telegraph.Australian Peacekeeper and Peacemaker Veterans Association NSW President Bruce Relph told the publication the idea was crazy because sexuality did not belong in the military.'This is nuts,' he said.'I respect people in the military because they are good soldiers not because they have a rainbow next to their name.' Despite the new plan aiming to build a support network for the LGBTI community, former Army officer and Australian Conservatives member Bernie Gaynor said the military was facing a 'rainbow jihad' which would affect careers.The only options women have are shopping online or in specialist shops, where dental dams tend to be pricier than most condoms.making sure that every part of the vagina is covered.And that means that women who have sex with women are entirely left out of sex and relationships education, left with no information about protection and given no sense that there are any risks they should be aware of.Which means that women are having sex with women without giving the risks a second thought.