And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.
One big problem seems to be the fact that in Japan the man earns the money, but the woman takes care of it!
For foreign women it’s a completely different story.
Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.