Because of their intense focus ISTJs may be seen as slightly detached, cold and impersonal, possibly even as uncaring.This is not deliberate but it can alienate those trying to get close or get to know them.So there is no right or wrong about this and what we are trying to do is help two different people each understand how the other might deal with conflict and what it will mean for the relationship.ISTJs prefer to keep themselves to themselves and so in conflict situations they will struggle with overt conflict, ie with someone who wants to engage verbally. The INTJ is often impervious to their environment as they are deep and private and love getting their heads into complex problems.Detached and factual ISTJs often find it difficult to deal with emotions as they see this as irrational and when others display emotions they have to translate the emotion into factual language that they can understand. Understanding the differences between two types is a really great starting point for getting along.
When it comes to organizing, streamlining, and logical thinking, no personality types do it better than ISTJs and INTJs.ISTJs bring a strong sense of planning, agreeing objectives and working steadily towards closure.They have a strong eye for detail and can therefore protect the team from going off in a wrong direction.They won’t really see the emotional issues and will work at a more cerebral level where they are more comfortable.INTJs work more at an intellectual than emotional level and so would see conflict, if they did engage, as simply an extension of the debate and their arguments would be well thought through, based on data. ISTJs do not like conflict if it involves emotion, as they prefer to see things far more factually and in a binary way.They love the intellectual robust debate and won’t really ‘see’ conflict.ISTJs have a strong sense of right and wrong and this tends to be around what has been agreed.ISTJs have and incredible eye for detail, focus and a desire to drive for closure.They will want to slowly assimilate information and be sure of their facts before moving forward and this will be as per the plan.For them it will be about did it play out fairly and as agreed?As the INTJ inhabits an internal world of complexity, ideas and possibilities, working towards conclusion, any conflict would simply be seen as part of that process, enacted then it’s time to move on.