Because of their intense focus ISTJs may be seen as slightly detached, cold and impersonal, possibly even as uncaring.This is not deliberate but it can alienate those trying to get close or get to know them.For practical guidance on building strong relationships take our practical tutorial.Some people seek harmony, some see conflict as simply robust discussions, some people are emotional, some more factual.For them it will be about did it play out fairly and as agreed?As the INTJ inhabits an internal world of complexity, ideas and possibilities, working towards conclusion, any conflict would simply be seen as part of that process, enacted then it’s time to move on.ISTJs are more factual than creative and their value is exactly that: ensuring that was has been agreed is delivered exactly as agreed and translating everything into a plan that is clear and can be delivered.When it comes to organizing, streamlining, and logical thinking, no personality types do it better than ISTJs and INTJs.
They love the intellectual challenge, coming alive with difficult problems to solve then step back again when it becomes mundane.Detached and factual ISTJs often find it difficult to deal with emotions as they see this as irrational and when others display emotions they have to translate the emotion into factual language that they can understand. Understanding the differences between two types is a really great starting point for getting along.Deep and private ISTJs will tend to keep their feelings to themselves and until they have the measure of people will be unlikely to proactively share their feelings. For practical guidance on building strong relationships take our practical tutorial. Understanding the differences between two types is a really great starting point for getting along.They love the intellectual robust debate and won’t really ‘see’ conflict.ISTJs have a strong sense of right and wrong and this tends to be around what has been agreed.ISTJs have and incredible eye for detail, focus and a desire to drive for closure.They will want to slowly assimilate information and be sure of their facts before moving forward and this will be as per the plan.They believe if you have said you’ll do something then it is akin to a contract and you should fulfil that.For the INTJ it is about creating something new and worthwhile and this will be their focus.So much has been written about whether opposites attract or difference is the key but in real life it is all about understanding the differences, accommodating and managing them.This section will help you see where the potential for conflict exists between personality types and help you manage it.