Race is only a small part of who you are, and respect and love can strengthen you in the face of adversity.You were attracted to each other by some common interests. There’ll always be someone who doesn’t like the fact that you are married, but there are many more who support you. We both happened to work at the same school, so we started out as friends and confidants and after life threw some obstacles at us, we ended up falling in love.I was new at work and we were playing “Getting-To-Know-You Bingo” where you try to find people in your group that have certain attributes on the bingo card.I was looking for someone who had been in a fraternity, so my new coworkers pointed me in Jamie’s direction.Even though I grew up around people with these backgrounds in school, it’s still fairly new to me.Any misconceptions about your relationship you’ve discovered?Our thought processes have always felt oddly in-sync, which makes it really comfortable for us to be ourselves.After a year or so, it just clicked that it was more than a “best friends” feeling.
I think it’s assumed that we have constant culture clashes.We just celebrated our 31st wedding anniversary but we began dating in 1984.I auditioned for a play at a local theater where Curt was the director.Have you had to face any adversities as an interracial couple?Some people assume that our being different races naturally creates problems, but it hasn’t. We always told our children we were a proud rainbow family.What advice would you seek out from an older interracial couple?How do I appreciate and speak a language without dipping into appropriation?When I asked him, he answered a very curt, “Yes,” and promptly turned around and walked away from me.I thought it was because I was the new PE teacher and he had bad experiences in PE.There’s this notion out there that you abandon some aspect of yourself and your culture when dating someone with a different background.I understand where this comes from, but I think I’ve learned to embrace parts of my culture I’ve taken for granted by watching him experience them for the first time.