" "is a great option for gay men," said Metal from the gay male bondage website Metalbond "It's a site where you can create a profile, window-shop for a play buddy, and 'check his references.' Even better, if you can, go to a public event like IML, MAL, or CLAW, or to a play party like the New York Bondage Club, where you can participate in a monitored space with other people around, or just watch the action.The same culture that put the zap on CAPP's head for having large breasts—her breasts attracted unwanted attention and she resented her breasts and now gets off on erotic images of breasts being punished (even though she now knows her breasts weren't the problem)—put the zap on your head.Men, young and old, are supposed to be attracted to younger women.
Of course, watching someone deep throat and doing it yourself are two different things, DQ."When I was first getting started, I found a local leather contingent that held monthly bar nights and discussion groups that taught classes for kinksters at any level.It provided an easy way into the community, and it helped me meet new people, make new friends, and find trustworthy play partners.(Particularly when that someone is clearly objectifying you! How does one get into the gay BDSM bottoming and leather scene?It can be freeing to regard a kink like SPH or your thing for tit slapping as a reward—as the only good thing to come out of the shitty zap the culture put on the head of a guy with a small cock or, in your case, a young woman with large breasts.So long as we seek out other consenting adults who respect us and our bodies, we can have our kinks—even those that took root in the manure of negative cultural messaging—and our self-acceptance and self-esteem, too. All the porn I watch is nothing but rough, sloppy blowjobs. Do I just turn some deepthroating porn on and see what happens? Deepthroat Queen There's never really a bad time to tell someone they won the lottery, DQ.I suspect your orgasms are just as good when you watch lesbian porn, CAPP, but the sense—suppressed when you were turned on, surfacing once you're not—that the performers weren't really enjoying themselves taints your lesbian-porn-enhanced orgasms in retrospect. Seek out lesbian porn featuring actual lesbians—authentic lesbian porn is out there. Sometimes we overcome the negative messaging our culture sends us about our identities or bodies only after our erotic imaginations have seized on the fears or self-loathing induced by those messages and turned them into kinks. Before a guy can ask a partner to indulge him in SPH, CAPP, he has to accept (and kind of dig) his small cock.So the acceptance is there, but the kink—a turn-on rooted in a resolved conflict—remains.That's understandable—a lot of so-called lesbian porn is inauthentic, in that it's made by and for straight men and features non-lesbian women going through the lesbian motions (often with long and triggering-for-actual-lesbian fingernails).Some gay porn features gay-for-pay straight male actors, of course, but most gay porn features gay actors doing what they love; the same goes for most trans FTM porn, which is a small and mostly indie niche.