I know that sounds harsh, but let me explain my theory on Christian dating. But I do believe that if you are seeking God’s will about who you date, He will lead you to someone that is a true fit for you.
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).I believe that there are any number of people that we each could marry and make it work – and even be happy.But I also believe that we will be happiest in marriage if we allow God to choose our mate for us.I truly wanted to do what I felt was God’s will, but I also really didn’t want to give up the relationship.It wasn’t until I was fully ready to obey God’s leading, that the answer came.Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.