Gone were the days that a girl pointing across a magistrate's court to a scruffy farm boy was enough to force him to marry her. Marriage wasn't as formal an affair back then as you might think.But with bundling, if the girl should fall pregnant, there would be plenty of witnesses to claim the boy in question had access and opportunity. No ruination for the girl, no fatherless child, no shame for the parents, and the guy? You didn't need a license or even a presiding authority.Colonial society came up with a fairly ingenious solution. Which makes modern parents look pretty lame by comparison. Not necessarily while bundling, but behind the barn, in the meadow, during the corn shuck fest.If you were 17, you might suggest to your strict Christian parents that you'd like to snuggle up with sultry Goodie Sally from across the hog farm. You've probably heard of this practice, called "bundling," where unmarried couples could sleep together in the same bed, sometimes with a plank placed between them (for all the good it would do). They planned ahead for it like some parents today stock their son's skater pants with condoms. HOLD HANDS AND MAKE EMPTY PROMISES Handfasting, or spousing, was another way for a dishonorable young rogue to get lucky.In return, the woman would keep the vermin out of the gruel she whipped up and would provide an outlet for sinful Puritan urges.Urges which would, in turn, provide the young couple with more laborers, so that this circle of mosquito-infested, frost-bitten drudgery could continue until they were released to God by sweet death. HAVE YOUR DADS ARRANGE IT After things were more settled in the (not-at-all-new) "New World," the living got a little easier, and marriage became more businesslike. America had gotten crowded; there were more ways to sustain life than farming and acreage.
Also, never buy yellow roses (can signal a decrease in feelings or the end of a relationship). - Ukrainian citizens do not share the altruistic "looks aren't important" mentality that has spread through the West. You will notice that on the street, people will look first at your clothes, then at your face. If invited into a family home, it is traditional to bring a gift. These cultural differences add a certain amount of charm to these beautiful ladies.A bottle of wine, a cake, chocolates or a bouquet of flowers is customary. Below are listed some of the more common dating customs that are considered the norm in Ukraine: 1. FIND A LIVE ONE The earliest colonists — the Puritans who struggled for every mouthful of food and whose yearly death count exceeded that of any George Romero movie — did not have time for the frippery of love and courtship. Courtship involved finding a woman of childbearing-ish age who had survived the previous winter.The man plowed things and kept threats of attack at bay.Your fiance' may not think this is important or even want you to ask her parents, but at least make the offer.Remember, if the woman still lives with her parents, you do not want to offend them by failing to respect an old Ukrainian custom.If they don't, simply take off your shoes and remain in your stocking feet (Note: because of this custom, you might want to pay careful attention to the socks you choose to wear). - You will find that Ukrainian women have the same (i.e., modern) attitudes about sex as Westerners do.Specifically, a few will engage in sex on the first date, a few will not engage in it until they are married, but the vast majority fall somewhere between these two extremes -- they will have sex when they feel that a certain level of mutual caring and trust has developed in the relationship. - You will find that Ukrainian women have the same (i.e., modern) attitudes about sex as Westerners do.Below are a few rules of etiquette that could save you a lot of embarrassment and trouble: When Meeting Your Special Ukrainian Woman, Mind Your P's and Q's - When you get invited to the home of a Ukrainian woman friend's family, be sure to bring a gift.Sure, you can never go wrong with a bottle of wine or a cake, but a gift that represents your home country would be greatly appreciated by your Ukrainian woman friend's family.