He bought me a drink and was super sweet, and we were really into the same music. We were living and studying in different states, so our relationship was long distance for months.But we had such a great rapport that we decided to keep it going.They also found gender differences within drug use too - men are three times more likely than women to use cannabis, cocaine or amphetamines.looked at people who'd experienced drug abuse first hand to see how damaging the effects had been on their partners.He started using drugs and booze to make me more open to trying things I didn’t want to.I was thinking, "Oh my god, this is not ok." And as time went on, our sex was either very aggressive or we didn't have sex at all.
The United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime researchers also reported that globally, 29million people are dependent on drugs.It was a bizarre situation, but I was just stuck in the cycle.Trying to break free, I started trying to go my own way with new friends and our roommates. I'd be doing laundry and find empty baggies in his pockets - it was evidence that he was doing a lot more drugs than he said he was.I'd travel to see him every two months or so because I had family where he was anyway, it was basically like going home. He always DJed at the weekends so we went out a lot - we'd have some drinks, use typical club drugs and smoke some weed.It never occurred to me that his drug use was anything more than occasional. He’d go through a bottle of wine on his own every day. When we moved to Spain together just after my graduation was when it really hit me.By that point I was ready to leave and had seen who he really was. I’ve had to go through counselling to help me deal with that. I do think addiction can affect the person the addict is in the relationship with more.He was highly functional in his life, but his behaviour really broke me down and held me back.If I could give any advice to women in the same situation, it would be: get out.If the signs are there and you’re starting to wonder, that’s a problem.Looking back, he was very much a manipulative person.In the bedroom, he became very physically aggressive and he'd make me do things I just wasn't comfortable with.