Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, the Psychology of Human Sexuality.
Do this when things are getting serious, not on the first or second date.They continue to date other men until a relationship is established.They understand that a date is just a date and not a marriage proposal. Your world isn’t crushed because one man didn’t call back.As long as both people keep an open line of communication and respect each other, there is no reason a relationship between an older woman and younger man can’t work out.Don’t put an expiration date on your relationship, unless a short fling is what you’re looking for.Are you interested in a fling, a committed long-term relationship or friends with benefits?If you don’t know what you’re looking for, you won’t know if the man you’re dating is the right fit.Have you considered dating a younger man, but are afraid of getting your heart broken, being humiliated and ultimately dumped for a younger woman? Our culture’s discomfort with reversing the norm of the younger woman-older man dynamic may come from a deep-rooted evolutionary instinct driving women to choose the older, wiser, more powerful alpha male over the untested young buck.Or, it could be caused by something as shallow and immediate as a woman not wanting anyone to mistake her date for her younger brother or, God forbid, her son.That would be like interviewing people with no specific job in mind.That’s the way young women date, and you’re not that naïve. At this point in your life you have probably been married before, have kids or made the choice to have neither.