No matter how hurt you may be, in order to move on you’ve got to find forgiveness in your heart. The forgiveness process is as much for you, as it is for others.In order for forgiveness to be effective, it needs to be genuinely felt in your heart. Given the opportunity, this vacuum can fill up with beautiful new beginnings.Pressuring yourself to make important decisions right away, before you can think them through with a clear head, may cause you to make some mistakes you’ll regret later on.
Reading how-to books or taking classes are also good ways to acquire new skills.I’ve seen this time and time again, when my man friends fell off the radar following a divorce. Find a close personal friend, or a professional counselor who will have the necessary compassion and wisdom for you. There are grieving stages that must be experience before you are released from the pain. You can either deal with it willingly on your own terms, or painfully and drawn out, while dealing with it subconsciously.In addition, you can join an online, or a brick and mortar share groups where you will be able to meet other people going through a divorce. Clearly, it’s to your advantage to deal with it directly. Consult with someone knowledgeable, or read up on the stages of grieving.It may or may not need to be communicated, depending on your personal circumstances. This is the time in your life that’s rich with new possibilities. Remember that no matter how terrible you are feeling right now, this time will pass.Mentally practice sending your forgiveness and goodwill to everyone involved. Work on detaching yourself from the negative emotions and thoughts of the past.This doesn’t mean that your new life has to be a disappointment — it’s just different.Try to identify some benefits to your being single again (they may be hard to find at first, but they do exist).Keeping a journal is a good way to do this and therapy can be a big help, too.Accept the fact that your life is no longer the way it used to be and it never will be again.Time will heal your wounds, but it’s up to you to passively wait for it to happen, or take a proactive approach by helping yourself to evolve. By John Ventura, Mary Reed After your divorce is over, you enter a new phase in your life.